Sustaining Happiness by John Tukums

Author:John Tukums [John Tukums]
Language: eng
Format: epub
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Publisher: BookBaby
Published: 2018-08-06T16:00:00+00:00

Pain Versus Suffering

Though we might sometimes use the words interchangeably, it’s important to remember that pain and suffering are quite different. Pain is short-term, and is there to teach you a very quick lesson. For example, say that you accidentally run hot water over your hands from under the tap, or receive a sharp pin prick that shoots pain into your body. It is quick, you learn the lesson to avoid that pain in the future, and then more often than not, you move on with your day with your blister or cut. Pain heals through the natural intelligence your body, and it assists us in navigating dangers. In general, physical pain is not an impediment to happiness except in the short-term.

WISDOM: Pain is your greatest teacher.

On the other hand, suffering is a prolonged emotional pain tied to both mindset and a physiological set. Suffering can be brought on by a bad relationship, a bully, or an embarrassing social situation. The question is, why do we hold onto to the emotional pain that causes suffering? Why do people choose to replay an emotionally painful situation, extending their own suffering? The short answer is that our rote traditions haven’t given us a rapid, practical way to deal with emotional pain.

We have learned, from the generations before us, that emotional pain is a sign of weakness that should be concealed from others. If you think about the pain of getting shot by a Taser gun, you likely wouldn’t volunteer to repeat the experience over and over. The reason we replay emotionally painful experiences is that this suffering serves a purpose within our mindsets and physiological sets, until we learn the lessons that need to be learned.

For a person in an abusive relationship, a person’s core being and intuition will tell them with every fibre in their body that something is not right, and the person suffers. Suffering thus becomes the decision a person makes to ignore the guidance that their intuition provides. The rote traditions and expectations that have been passed along to us cloud the situation, and slow down our decision-making, thereby prolong our suffering. Learning from pain to avoid further suffering is a natural impulse within our body and mind. However, happiness and self-help modalities thus far have not always provided clear, tangible instructions for how to act on lessons learned to alleviate further suffering. Simply stated, if there was one great book with tremendous instructions, you wouldn’t need to buy the other books in the same subject.

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